Mind Over Matter.


Conquering our mindset is something that we hear often but it is much easier said than done. So I am not going to try to explain to you how to do it, but I am going to share a few tips with you that have helped me build a stronger mindset over the years.

None of us are motivated 100% of the time and it can be hard to see the good in your life when it seems like everything is falling apart, but when things go wrong and your mind starts to wonder to a negative and doubtful place keep these few tips in mind.

Photo by  Scott Webb  on  Unsplash

Photo by Scott Webb on Unsplash


1. Start Your Day With a Positive Affirmation.

How you start the morning sets the tone for the rest of the day. Have you ever woken up late, panicked, and then felt like everything that could go wrong for that day did? This is likely because you started out the day with a negative emotion and a pessimistic view that carried into every other interaction you experienced. Instead of letting this dominate you, start your day with positive affirmations. Wake up early, reflect while you drink your morning coffee or tea. Set some goals for the day and make a plan, or go for a run or walk and get those endorphins flowing through your body!

2. Focus On The Good Things, Even if They Are Small Things.

You’re going to encounter obstacles throughout the day—there’s no such thing as a perfect day. When you encounter a challenge, focus on the benefits, no matter how slight or unimportant they seem. For example, if  the store is out of the food you want to prepare, think about how now you can search Pinterest for a new recipe.

3. Try to Find Humor in Bad Situations.

Allow yourself to experience humor in even the darkest or most trying situations. Remind yourself that this situation will probably make for a good story later and try to crack a joke about it. Say you bomb a presentation at work, laugh at yourself, make some jokes about it and use that to build some relationships with co-workers. Everyone loves a person who can crack a joke and shed some light on situations. It’s okay to not be perfect all the time and be a little vulnerable.

4. Focus On The Present.

I’m talking about the present — not today, not this hour, only this exact moment. You MIGHT t be getting dumped by your boyfriend or girlfriend, but what in this exact moment is happening that’s so bad? Forget the comment they made five minutes ago. Forget what they MIGHT say five minutes from now. Focus on this one, individual moment. In most situations, you’ll find it’s not as bad as you imagine it to be. Most sources of negativity stem from a memory of a recent event or the exaggerated imagination of a potential future event. Stay in the present moment and don’t compare present situations to past ones, remember not one situation is the same.

5. Transform Negative Self-talk Into Positive Self-talk.

Negative self-talk can creep up easily and is often hard to notice. You might think I’m so bad at this or I shouldn’t have eaten that. But these thoughts turn into internalized feelings and might cement your conceptions of yourself. When you catch yourself doing this, STOP!  and replace those negative messages with positive ones. For example, I’m so bad at this becomes...Once I get more practice, I’ll be way better at this. I shouldn’t have eaten that can be turn into… now I have more fuel to really kill it at the gym!

6. Surround Yourself With Positive People.

When you surround yourself with positive people, you’ll hear positive outlooks, positive stories and positive affirmations. Their positive words will sink in and affect your way  thinking, which then affects your words and similarly contributes to the group. Finding positive people to fill up your life can be difficult, but you need to eliminate the negativity in your life before it consumes you.

Ashley Zamora